Love, Hate, & Loneliness.

Love, Hate, & Loneliness


1).Why are we here?  -To experience pure, true, complete love.

2).What is our purpose?  -To be completely united in and for the experience of God’s pure love.

3).How do we obtain our potential?  -By obeying God and living as He created us to live.

If you have hate in your heart, you will never know love.


What is hate?

According to…

*Holman’s Bible Dictionary – A strong negative reaction, a feeling toward someone considered an enemy as well as loving someone less than another.

*The System Study Bible– A consuming fire that reduces to ashes the superstructure built by love; it destroys the finer sensibilities; it dwarfs the growth of the soul; it kills liberality; it stays the operation of the spirit of forgiveness; it breeds vindictiveness, jealousies, and dishonorable thoughts and acts, … it is the self- destroying agency of health and worth.  Hate is self-inflicted punishment.   It is as Byron says:  “Hatred is the madness of the heart.”

Hate is also a sort of defensive tool… but by choosing to make use of it, we obtain no truly positive result.  Sure we can hide behind strong feelings of hate so that we may be able to deny ourselves the feelings of pain, hurt, anger, rejection, injustice, or whatever other negative feeling(s) we are trying to avoid.  Hate is extremely effective at blocking out all those painful truths that we try to hide from.  But using hate, (or anger), for our self-protection, is surely and completely, the single most self-destructive thing we can do!  While hate and anger do a great job of fending off those negative feelings and emotions… by using it, we also deny ourselves of knowing and experiencing the good.  Hate creates such a strong and complete wall, that it will also block out our having the ability to fully experience love, kindness, happiness, joy, and fullfillment in our lives.

See, when we allow ourselves to make use of anger and hate as a defense, it can only work by also repelling anything or anyone that might cause us to truly be happy, joyous, or at peace.  Because hate knows that those things which can make us feel the happiest, safest, and most loved… are also what leaves us the most vunerable to allowing ourselves to be hurt.  Therefore, it simply allows nothing to penetrate that wall…. (except those things which it uses to feed and grow, such as anger, jealousy, contempt, self-pity, rage, etc).  So that eventually, we just become void of any true feelings, and can seemingly control our emotions as if choosing to turn a light switch on or off.  If we begin to feel threatened with the possibility of being hurt, we are able to instantly summon the power of that hate, like the flipping of a light switch, thereby shifting the emotions back to our apparent control.

Hate is nothing more than a deceptive mechanism which allows us to mistakenly feel as if we are in control of negative or hurtful feelings and emotions.

By taking the feelings that we do not control such as feelings of hurt, anger, pain, resentment, lonliness, unjustness, trauma, abuse, neglect, self-loathing, etc…  and re-grouping them under the category of hate… we deceptively feel that we are in control.  We feel in control because hate is a choice.  It is not something that represents us as being hurt, vunerable, and  helpless victims… it shifts control of all those negative emotions into one category.  One that is not controlled by outside people, events, or forces, but one that is an active, defensive, decision that we make ourselve, in a vain attempt at self-protection and self-preservation.

It’s not unlike a computer firewall.  A firewall can be so effective that nothing gets through it.  Nothing gets in, and nothing gets out, unless we give it specific permission and allow it.  By blocking out everything that makes us, (and our computers), vunerable…. we must block out both good and bad.  Because to allow something inside that brings us pleasure, joy, love, or happiness… we are allowing ourselves to become at risk of pain if we lose it.  Thus the only way to maintain complete control and safety, is to maintain complete isolation.

Complete isolation is total lonliness.  Complete and total loneliness, is to be in darkness.  To be in darkness is to be devoid of light.  If we are without light, we are without God, and thus will never know love.

The opposite of hate, in my opinion, is forgiveness.  If we take all of those same negative emotions, that would otherwise be filed under the “hate” folder in our mental filing cabinets… and move every one of them over to the “forgiveness” folder… then our lives will truly change.

Then our eyes are open to see, our ears are made to hear, and our hearts are open to feel.  We become able to feel all of the positive aspects and blessings of God, (aka. love, friendship, happiness, truth, peace, joy, etc.), and are no longer unable to conquer the negative things we may encounter.  Forgiveness allows us to truly live.  (Who should be afraid of dying, except those who have never lived?)

We were put here to love and be loved.  What a shame it would be to deny ourselves of it, when all that is stopping us is a conscience choice?  How crazy it that!!

“The light shined in the darkness, and the darkness comprehended/overcame it not.”

Hate functions by using isolation.  Isolation is lonliness; which is darkness.  Darkness is cut off from light; where there is no light, there is not the presence of God, (love).  Where there is light, there can be no darkness.  Darkness cannot overcome light.

*Hate- is lonliness in denial/disguise.  So, I say, lonliness is the opposite of love.  And the opposite of hate is forgiveness.  Hate prevents you from healing… forgiveness, allows you to heal, and to begin living.

Love is… Loneliness is…
God Hell
the truth confusion
direction searching
light darkness
united alone
harmony chaos
comforting broken
completeness incomplete
fullness emptiness
believes doubtfull
creative destructive
confident fearful
healing hurting
strong weak
oneness rejection
peaceful anxious
hopeful hopeless
happy depressed
patient frantic
faithful restless
has answers is troubled
strengthens weakens
satisfies un-fullfilled
warmth coldness
freeing imprisoning
forgiveness condemnation

The Way of Love

 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.   And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.   If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  

Love never ends. 

As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.  For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.  When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.  For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three;  but the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13 

-English Standard Version (ESV)